Why Is It So Hard To Find Balance with Family & Ministry?

 Frey Family Circa Fall 2016 L-R: Isaac, Sara, Lulu, Jack, Joe, & Evan.

Frey Family Circa Fall 2016 L-R: Isaac, Sara, Lulu, Jack, Joe, & Evan.

Your wife will be like a fruitful grapevine, flourishing within your home. Your children will be like vigorous young olive trees as they sit around your table. That is the Lord’s blessing for those who fear him.
— Psalm 128:3-4 (NLT)
The father of godly children has cause for joy. What a pleasure to have children who are wise.
— Proverbs 23:24 (NLT)
Direct your children onto the right path, and when they are older, they will not leave it.
— Proverbs 22:6 (NLT)

Anyone who has known me over the last 4 years knows that I have been working very hard and "hustling" with my music ministry. I have taken 2-3 trips a year to Nashville to write and network with music industry connections. I have performed 100 plus sets a year for 3 years. I have worked 2-3 jobs at times to make it all work as I feel my true calling in life is to make Jesus known. I truly love it! But I would be lying if I told you it wasn't tough. It's tough. In many ways.

On top of all those things I am a proud father of 4 wonderful children with my wonderful wife of 10 years, Sara. The constant "work/life balance" has been a struggle for me for as long as I can remember. I wanted to write this blog post for no other reason than to say this.  I am not writing this from perfection but rather from experience in knowing that you must cling to Jesus. I have failed many times.  If you are not careful ministry can actually become more of a focus than our relationship with Jesus. If that relationship falters...your family will as well. I have had to work very hard to maintain a close family but the job is never done.

I have come into contact over the years on the road with so many broken families in the church who put so much weight on ministry and church on Sunday that before they know it there is a distance between them and their spouse/children that cannot be easily fixed.  

Seek counseling and make Jesus the priority. All the family balance will come together through Him. I have seen God do some amazing things in my family and so many others! Life is never to busy to pray to ask for help... It's also never too busy to play a game with your kids and spend time talking about life in general. It goes a long way.  Until next time! 

Here is some scripture to help encourage and guide us in finding balance with family & ministry. 

Fathers, do not aggravate your children, or they will become discouraged.
— Colossians 3:21 (NLT)

Here is my crazy daughter, Lucille Jane, my little flash running in a Nerf War.... #Priceless